Never Tony, a good friend of mine, showed me a video of him in this gym class he was going to, some kind of foreign fighting thing. All I could see was that he was getting “beaten up” in many different ways. He decided to demonstrate and trapped my head and shoulder between his legs. It was not funny to me! I had two takeaways that day. That whatever thing he was doing was: brutally dangerous, and inappropriately intimate. I said to myself: I’ll NEVER do that! Years went by,