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Today is World Suicide Prevention Day 2026, we’d like to help you answering this question: The wisdom in traditional Chinese Character 聽(tīng, 听in simplified) teaches us the exact way to show up for them. To put our ears first, give full focus, meet their eyes, and hold their pain sincerely in our hearts. First, 耳, the ear, paired with 王, king. This radical pair tells us: the ear must be king of this moment. When someone shares suicidal pain, speaking does not get to take ove

Updated: Aug 2026 I am a psychotherapist; director of CandleX. I am also an entrepreneur, a community mental-health advocate, a mentor, an interviewer and a story teller, a mindfulness practitioner, a lifelong learner, and more. I am Xiaojie Qin. 我是秦小杰。 心理咨询师，心理治疗师，CandleX的创始者及总监，社区心理健康的推动者。有时给青少年做做导师，也做社区心理故事的采访者；讲故事，也修习正念。终身学习，不止于此。 Finding a therapist—and the right one for you—is a big deal. That's why I want to be as transparent as possible about who I am and how I work,

Author: Xiaojie Qin Time: April 2026 In June 2025, after finishing my yoga practice, I would sling my mat over my shoulder and arrive at the same cafe by 8 a.m. to write. The process turned out to be far harder than I had imagined. I thought I already knew the material, but as I wrote, questions kept surfacing in my mind. What I had planned as a single chapter stretched into two or three. Sometimes I set a timer for myself—because when I hit a difficult spot, I tend to dig in

This article was originally written in English by the author Qin Xiaojie (Counselor, Psychotherapist) and later translated into Chinese by DeepSeek, adhering to the original intent of the writing and the ethical principles of writing about client experiences. 文章由作者秦小杰（心理咨询师，心理治疗师）用英文文写作，后经Deepseek翻译成中文（向下滑动到后半部分可见），秉持：写作初心和来访咨询故事写作伦理原则。 Author: Xiaojie Qin Time: March 2026 Over the course of eleven chapters, I have offered a comprehensive introduction to the core concepts and

This article was originally written in English by the author Qin Xiaojie (Counselor, Psychotherapist) and later translated into Chinese by DeepSeek, adhering to the original intent of the writing and the ethical principles of writing about client experiences. 文章由作者秦小杰（心理咨询师，心理治疗师）用英文文写作，后经Deepseek翻译成中文（向下滑动到后半部分可见），秉持：写作初心和来访咨询故事写作伦理原则. Author: Xiaojie Qin Time: Feb 2026 The Work of Reintegration Shamanic unburdening is, without question, a pivotal step in Internal Family Sys

This article was originally written in Chinese by the author Qin Xiaojie (Counselor, Psychotherapist) and later translated into English by DeepSeek, adhering to the original intent of the writing and the ethical principles of writing about client experiences. 文章由作者秦小杰（心理咨询师，心理治疗师）用中文写作（向下滑动到后半部分可见），后经Deepseek翻译成英文，秉持：写作初心和来访咨询故事写作伦理原则。 Author: Xiaojie Qin Time: Feb 2026 When we successfully use the 'waiting room' technique to temporarily place the protectors of the exiles the

This article was originally written in Chinese by the author Qin Xiaojie (Counselor, Psychotherapist) and later translated into English by DeepSeek, adhering to the original intent of the writing and the ethical principles of writing about client experiences. 文章由作者秦小杰（心理咨询师，心理治疗师）用中文写作（向下滑动到后半部分可见），后经Deepseek翻译成英文，秉持：写作初心和来访咨询故事写作伦理原则。 Author: Xiaojie Qin Time: Feb 2026 In the previous chapter, I described how I used "role-play" with my client Xuan to efficiently and directly

This article was originally written in Chinese by the author Qin Xiaojie (Counselor, Psychotherapist) and later translated into English by DeepSeek, adhering to the original intent of the writing and the ethical principles of writing about client experiences. 文章由作者秦小杰（心理咨询师，心理治疗师）用中文写作（向下滑动到后半部分可见），后经Deepseek翻译成英文，秉持：写作初心和来访咨询故事写作伦理原则。 Author: Xiaojie Qin Time: Feb 2026 Deviating from the Theoretical Course: A Creative Choice Rooted in the Present In the previous chapter, we